10 Things That 2015 Has Taught Me
I can honestly say that 2015 was the hardest year that I have experienced thus far. To sum up the year for me in two words, I would have to say...roller coaster. Despite how difficult of a year it has been, I have experienced so much growth that I would not change anything about this year AT ALL. Sounds crazy? I know. However, when you are taken on a difficult journey in life, that is when you learn the most life lessons. Here are ten things that the worst year ever has taught me!
- Self care is essential. A lot of what I went through this year (in life, period) has been brought on by not taking proper care of myself. I would run and run until my body would give out...and then I would manage to keep running somehow. I would wait until I was completely broken down to get some rest, but then I would go back to the same routine afterwards. I've learned that in order for me to remain healthy and sane, I need to nurture my needs in the midst of my daily routines. Take time to get sleep, have "spa days" at home, exercise, take yourself on a date...whatever gives you a break from life so that you can take care of YOU. Taking care of yourself is so important if you want to live a long, full life! Otherwise, you will be useless to the world and even to yourself...
- Live your life for YOU. I have spent so much of my life trying to please others that I forgot all about doing what fulfills me. I've always known what I was passionate about, but I felt that it was not good enough to fit other people's idea of what will make me successful. After two major changes and many explored career paths, it wasn't until recently that I decided to follow my dreams. Doing what is going to bring you a lifetime of joy is better than living for others.
- Proper healing takes time. Every time something happens to me, I allow it to anger me, then I shut down. After that, I continue on as if nothing has happened. That is not the way to handle things. This year has taught me that I need to take time to allow my past wounds to heal. Even if you're still hurting about something that happened years ago, find time to deal with it or you will never heal properly.
- All men are not trifling... Haha, so I know this seems like a joke, but this is actually something that I have struggled with. I lost all hope of dating in this generation because times have changed drastically. I came to the conclusion that all men are not the same "no good guys" that we sometimes think they are. We just have to be patient and wait on the right one to come along. Even if a guy you meet is only right for the moment and not meant to be your life partner, all hope is not lost.
- Don't allow just anyone into your space. Perfect timing, right? Whether you are dating or meeting new potential BFFs, be careful of the type of people that you spend time with. Certain energies can bring you down! Everyone's intentions aren't pure. That is a hard pill to swallow when you think about how good of a person you are and you wonder why you still have people around you who aren't genuine. That's life; lesson learned. Nevertheless, there are a lot of good people in the world with really awesome vibes. If you stay true to yourself, those people will naturally gravitate towards you.
- Suppress less, write more. The reason why I started this blog was so that I would have an outlet. Writing is so therapeutic whether I am blogging or just writing in my journal. Sometimes I don't feel like talking to someone when I am dealing with something. Instead of holding it in, I have discovered that writing it out is a way for me to release my emotions. When you go back and read over things that you have written down in the past, it allows you to see how far you have come. What a great way to visibly see your growth!
- Therapists are a great investment! Okay, so let's move away from the idea that therapists are for "crazy" people. I am a regular college student with issues that are not abnormal and I still benefit from talking to a therapist. Therapists help you dig deep within yourself to unmask hurt that you probably never realized was there before. Even if you do not want to speak to a therapist, speak to someone...bottom line. Talk to a relative or friend; do not hold things in as I mentioned before. I only recommend a therapist because it is nice to talk to someone who does not know you whatsoever!
- Community is important. Let's face it, we cannot do this on our own. Having people to lean on for advice or support is essential to making it through life. I realized that I do not have all of the answers and that I crumble when I do not allow others to be there for me. Sometimes all I want is someone to give me a hug. It may sound corny, but people need people.
- Enjoy your present more than you plan your future. I make an itinerary for every portion of my life and I am not even exaggerating. I am a planner; that's just me. This year, I came to the conclusion that I am missing out on life because I am too worried about being in control of what's next. (I am the biggest control freak ever!) Don't get me wrong, you should always have a life plan. However, don't consume yourself with making sure that you execute that plan perfectly. Now, I am going to be honest...2015 taught me this, but I might not actually apply it until (late) 2016, haha! We are all a work in progress!
- #YOLO is really the motto...thanks Drake. You only live once. I repeat, YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE! Each day should be lived to the fullest. It is hard when you have classes, a job, and responsibilities out of this world, BUT we should try our best to enjoy it as much as we can. Smile more, dance more, explore more...just do more of what you love to do!
Being that this was an eventful year, I could list quite a few more. Life can be tough, but as long as we keep pushing, we will gain so much wisdom for the future. As I enter into the new year, I plan to apply ALL of these lessons to my life. I can't wait to see what lessons 2016 has in store for me!
What has 2015 taught you? Comment below if you want to share.